FRIENDS

“In everyone’s life, at some time, our inner fire goes out. It is then burst into flame by an encounter with another human being. We should all be thankful for those people who rekindle the inner spirit.”
Albert Schweitzer

Do you ever feel like what is happening in your life is not enough? This year despite my small wins I was feeling quite inadequate. I had a couple of moments of great self-doubt. I must say I'm happy about my support system, for despite at times lashing out to some of them and seemingly being withdrawn they stayed with me through it all. They kept encouraging me and giving a shoulder to lean on whenever I needed it and for that, I'm really grateful.

How often do you celebrate your true friends? These are the friends who are with you at your worst moments and will still be there at your best. Those friends whom you can always count on. Whatever time it is they will lend you a listening ear. Those friends whom you do not communicate daily but when you do, it is so seamless, it appears to be a continuation of a previous conversation.




I am proud to say that I have been fortunate enough to have this and until recently I had never really appreciated how much of a blessing it is. As I continue with the process of self-introspection I continue to learn that blessings come in many forms and not just materially. It can be as simple as good friends, a close family unit, an unwavering support system to pursue one's goals no matter how wild they sound, good health, employment opportunities, etc. When in doubt of this remember this beautiful quote “We need much less than we think we need.”Maya Angelou



What lessons have you derived from your 2019 friendships? I have a lot of them but here is a brief list

1. It is important to just be nice

This year a friend of mine gifted me with something I will forever cherish. It was actually her birthday but being the kind soul that she is, she decided to be the bearer of the gifts rather than the receiver of the same. To say I was flabbergasted would be an understatement. I learned a great lesson through that simple gesture. I learned that, you need no reason to be nice and when I tried it, it was so fulfilling and for the first time, I felt contented. Try performing a random act of kindness then assess how you feel.

2. Sometimes all one needs is a hug


I have a hug buddy ( is that even a word). Anyway, whenever we have our terrible moments we just hug it out for a couple moments and almost always we tend to feel much better thereafter. By now you might be wondering WTH  right! but do you know this small act by itself taught me something? It has taught me that sometimes it is important to take a moment and accept you ain't within a proper headspace and you need to take a moment. Take a moment to catch your breath, process the situation and then get a way forward.

3. Friendships can develop at  any point in time


With so many things going on in our lives, at times we may forget to take care of ourselves. It has been quite an interesting year for me. Fancy this, some of the friendships I formed this year were formed over the planning of a random trip.We literally found ourselves in a room discussing how it would be nice to have a getaway and within ten minutes we had planned on where we should go. Point of note prior to this interaction some of us had never really gone past saying hi to each other. I'm happy to state that now we are basically inseparable.



I would really love to hear of the unique lessons you may have all gotten  so please share and also keep in mind that,